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When You May Need Help

Have you faced any of the following problems as a caregiver?

  • The need to hide your grief
  • Fear of the future
  • Worries about money
  • Having less ability to solve problems

It may seem as though you are alone and the only one with these problems, but this is not true. Every caregiver goes through this.

Families of people who need care face the fear of becoming dependent on others, loneliness or becoming isolated from their community.

The care recipient can become more dependent on the caregiver. At the same time, the caregiver will need more respite and support.

Many caregivers may feel bad asking for help. However, caregivers can cope better if they build up a support network.


When To Seek Help

"Why doesn't anyone ask how I am doing?"

It is easy to feel invisible. Everyone's attention may be on the person with the illness. They may not understand the caregiver.

Many caregivers say that nobody asks how they are. Mental health experts' advice is not to let such feelings build up. Caregivers must tell other people how they feel and what they need.

Support groups, religious and spiritual advisors, or mental health counsellors can advise caregivers on new and positive ways to ask for help.

Seek professional help if you:

  • Drink more alcohol than usual
  • Often take prescriptive medication without a doctor's advice
  • Suffer from skin rashes, backaches, colds or a flu that will not go away
  • Cannot focus or think clearly
  • Feel tired and do not want to do anything
  • Feel sad all the time
  • Have fear and anxiety
  • Feel worthless and guilty
  • Feel depressed for two weeks or more
  • Have thoughts of committing suicide
  • Have physically hurt or are thinking about hurting the care recipient


Dealing With Physical And Emotional Burdens

Here are some general tips to dealing with such burdens:

Change Your Mindset:

  • Remind yourself that you are doing something important for the person in your care
  • Take care of your self-esteem – remember that you have skills and talents
  • Realise that you have limitations and accept them
  • Do not give in when your care recipient is too demanding
  • Live one day at a time

Deal With Your Emotions:

  • Do not feel guilty about your emotions. They are natural and very human
  • Express your anger and frustration by writing down your feelings
  • Allow yourself to cry

Manage Your Tasks Better

  • Set realistic goals – remember that you may not be able to do everything like before
  • Make a list of important tasks, think of ways to make your work easier, allow some things to be left undone
  • When handling a difficult task, make it easier by listening to music

Take Care of Your Health

  • Take short rests in the day to get enough sleep
  • Focus on getting relaxing sleep instead of more sleep
  • Set aside time for meditation, reflection or prayer
  • Find time for regular exercise, keep fit and increase your energy
  • Eat a balanced diet

Do Things You Enjoy

  • Make time for yourself
  • Treat yourself to a massage
  • Keep in contact with friends and take part in interesting activities

Don't Shoulder It All

  • Let friends or family know that you welcome help and allow them to help with caregiving so that you can take a break
  • Speak openly and honestly to people who should be doing more to help
  • Make a list of tasks and assign specific ones to people who offer to help
  • Share your concerns with a friend
  • Join a support group, or start one to share ideas and resources
  • Use respite care services that can lighten your caregiving load - to get some ideas, visit Eldercare Services
  • When you visit the doctor, talk about your caregiving responsibilities, not just your symptoms

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As a caregiver, you would face emotional burdens. Learn how you can cope with it.
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As a caregiver, you would face emotional burdens. Learn how you can cope with it.
Coping with Emotional Burdens